DAILY DOSE OF DEEN: Avoid backbiting
اَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيْمِ
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمن الرَّحِيْمِ
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaathu everyone!
This is going to be my new page where I am going to aim to address different issues on a daily basis. As I am going to try to do them daily, they won’t be very long articles but enough for some basic information on whatever the given topic is. I decided to make the first post about something I believe is very common nowadays. And that is backbiting.
Backbiting is a common disease of the soul and is very prevalent in our society, especially so in the Pakistani community. I know I see it a lot and it is actually saddening that so many people seem to partake in this major sin. Many don’t understand how much of a sin backbiting is or even if they do, they don’t actually understand what counts as backbiting. A lot of passing comments that many people make nowadays come under the category of backbiting. It is very important that we guard our tongues as on the day of Judgement, our words may be used against us.
Backbiting is a major sin in Islam yet so many people have fallen victim to this evil. Many Muslims are always aware of zina (fornication) being a major sin in Islam and because of the consequences do not indulge in it. Yet this same restraint is not given to backbiting because it has become such an integral part of our daily wives.
Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) said, “backbiting is severer than fornication.” People asked, “Ya Rasullullah (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم)! Why is that?” The Prophet (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) replied, “A person fornicates then he repents and Allah (سبحانه وتعلي) accepts his repentance. Whereas the repentance of the backbiter will not be accepted until the person he slandered forgives him.”
This hadith shows that backbiting is a worse sin that fornication, yet so many people seem to take this so lightly. Not only are there many hadith relating to the sin of backbiting, it is explicitly mention in the Quran.
لَا يَغْتَبْ بَّعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًاDo not backbite one another
– Quran [49:12]
This is literally stated in the Quran that as Muslims we should not backbite yet so many still do. It is important that we learn to ease of this habit for the sake of our deen. At the end of the day, we are all prone to making mistakes, but we should all try out utmost best to strive to be better than how we were the day we were before.
My brother told me a story about a man who used to backbite about another pious man in the community. Now during this time, the backbiter used to receive gifts from an unknown individual. The man was confused as to where the gifts were coming from and so he asked around. Eventually it came to his knowledge that it was the man that he had been backbiting about. This caused the man to wonder as to why he was backbiting about a person who gifts him such things, so he stopped backbiting. As soon as he stopped backbiting, he stopped receiving gifts. This confused the man and he approached the pious person and asked why this was the case. The pious man replied and said, “when you were backbiting about me, I was being given your rewards so I thought I would gift you with something in return. When you stopped backbiting about me, I was no longer being given any rewards, so I also stopped gifting you.”
The moral behind this parable can help us see the consequences of us backbiting. Are we willing for our blessings and our good deeds to be given away just because we cannot learn to control our tongues? It is also important for us to realise that the company we keep is an important aspect for us in terms of avoiding backbiting as even being in the presence of the one who backbites is considered backbiting.
It is stated about Sayyidina Abu Bakr (رضي الله تعلي عنه) and Sayyidina Umar Farooq (رضي الله تعلي عنه) that one of them said to the other, “so-and-so person sleeps too much.” After saying this, they asked for gravy from the Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) so they could eat it with the bread. The Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) said, “you’ve already eaten the gravy.” Both respectfully replied, “we are not aware of it.” The Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) replied, “yes, why not? You ate your brother’s flesh.”
Both were held accountable even though only one of them committed the act of backbiting and the other only listened to it. The listener of the backbiting is also one of the backbiters. From this we can see the importance of keeping good company.
As Muslims, we should strive to conceal our fellow Muslims’ sins and try to guide them on the straight path. It is of no benefit if we backbite about others.
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