DAILY DOSE OF DEEN: Every night before you go to sleep try to forgive everyone that has wronged you
اَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيْمِ
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمن الرَّحِيْمِ
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaathu everyone!
So, this is technically a very late post, but I had been so swamped with my university work that I just didn’t want to start writing this and get distracted. I can only concentrate on one thing at a time. I do not have the brain power to do multiple things at a time.
Today’s post is going to be about forgiveness, and it is an important concept we must implement in our day to day lives. It is inevitable that in life people are going to hurt us or upset us or offend us. In the same way we will probably do the same to others. Now if we do accidentally and unintentionally hurt someone it is our Islamic duty to ensure that we ask for forgiveness from those people and seek repentance from Allah (سبحانه وتعلي). Sometimes people might not accept our apologies, but we should always continually try in the hope that one day they will forgive us.
When people hurt us, we can get very angry and can think about ‘why did so-and-so do this to us?’ At the end of the day, if we really think about it, the only people we are hurting by holding such grudges is ourselves. We might be more tempted to speak ill about this person and backbiting is a major sin in Islam. We may overthink to the point that we are questioning the Qadr of Allah (سبحانه وتعلي). We may become arrogant and so proud that we think that we are better than these people that have hurt us. However, ultimately, we know that we are not perfect. It is an extremely important trait to be able to forgive others and one that will benefit us in this life and the next. An authentic Hadith narrated in Musnad Ahmed shows how much Allah (سبحانه وتعلي) loves those with a forgiving heart.
Once the Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) was sitting with some of the companions and said, “a man from Jannah will enter now.” As soon as the Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) spoke aman entered. The next day it happened again.
Again, the Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله عليه واله وسلم) repeated his words,
“A man from Jannah will show up now.” The same person showed up.
On the third day, it happened again, and the same person appeared through the door again
Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) had been among the companions all three days. Curiosity got hold of him and he went up to the man and said,
“I have had a dispute with my father and have promised that I will not go back home for three days. Would you let me stay with you for three days?”
The man agreed to have him as a guest for three days.
Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) was a pious man. He fasted regularly and finished Quran in three nights in prayer. He reasoned, surely the man must be praying all night and fasting every day, that is why he has been chosen among the people of Jannah. At night he expected his host to stand in prayer the whole night, but the host only offered the obligatory prayers and went to sleep. In the morning, Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) expected him to fast, but the host had breakfast. Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) thought that his host might not be feeling well today and maybe tomorrow he would do as Abdullah was expecting.
To Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه)’s amazement, the host followed the same routine all three nights that Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) was with him and did not fast. On the third day, Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) told him the truth and said that he did not have any fight with his father. He had only said that to be with him so that he could see what was so special about him that made him one of the people of Jannah.
The man told him there was nothing special about him. He always did as Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) had seen for himself. Disappointed, Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) started to leave. The man called him back and said, “there was nothing unique about him except that when he went to bed each day, he made sure there was no feeling of hatred or jealousy in his heart for any Muslim.”
Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (رضي الله تعالي عنه) said to him; “Nothing made you reach that rank except this. And not all of us are able to do so.”
No person is perfect. Everyone is capable of wrongdoing and deserves forgiveness. Sometimes people do not realise that they have not done anything wrong, but it is not for us to decide or to punish those people. Instead, we should hope that Allah (سبحانه وتعلي) guides them. We should always try our best to go to sleep at night with no grudges or ill will towards anyone.