Jealousy

DAILY DOSE OF DEEN: Help those who are less fortunate instead of being jealous of those we think are more fortunate

اَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيْمِ
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمن الرَّحِيْمِ

Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaathu everyone!

Now let’s all be honest here; everyone probably has got jealous at some point in their life but over time many of us have learnt to let go of our jealousy whereas some of us haven’t. I am speaking from experience when I say jealousy has the ability to drives a person mentally insane. No, I am not talking about myself because alhamdullilah I am mentally stable albeit to what my siblings might think of me.

Jealously is one of the most destructive emotions known to man and led to the downfalls of Shaytaan and is at the core of most evil thoughts and acts. Jealously makes a person, who is otherwise rational, become irrational. Our Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله تعلي عليه واله وسلم) warned us about jealousy

“Beware of jealousy for verily it destroys good deeds the way fire destroys wood.”

– Prophet Muhammad (صلي الله تعلي عليه واله وسلم)

By being jealous of others, the only person we are hurting is ourselves. In this hadith we can clearly see how harmful an impact jealousy has. Do we really want what little good deeds we do have to be taken away from us?

In this day and age with the presence of social media it is very easy to become jealous of others when we see their wealth and successes. We often don’t realise that what we see on social media is often a façade and these people are not as happy as they seem to be. With that being said even if people are happy, is that a reason for us to be jealous. Instead we should work on ourselves, work on improving our imaan, fixing our faith and developing our deen. I know it is a lot easier said than done to stop being jealous of others but where jealousy ends, there is a path to being content with what one has. We always look at the things that people have that have more than us, but what about the people who have less than us.

  • If you have food in your fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of the world.
  • If you woke up this morning with more health than illness you are more blessed that over one million people who will not make it to the end of the week.
  • If you have money in the bank, your wallet and some spare change you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthiest.

Think about those three facts. How much do we have and how much do we really thank Allah for what we have? Everyone has their own problems and troubles; we just don’t always see them. That is something we should always remember. Instead of being jealous of others we should be happy when others do well. At the end of the day when you allow jealousy to consume, you are the only one who comes out as a loser.

A lot of people think that why does so-and-so have this? Why do I not have it? I pray more than him, I give more charity than him, I fast more than him. But we cannot see what is written in one’s heart. Those who on the exterior might seem like bad Muslims to you might have the cleanest and purest of hearts and that is why Allah (سبحانه وتعلي) has given them so much. Or on the other hand maybe Allah (سبحانه وتعلي) has blessed them with so much and they may not be given anything in the akhirah. Our ultimate goal is not this world, it is the next we should be worried about.

We should concentrate on ourselves to ensure that we are build up our good deeds as even one single minuscule deed may be the reason Allah (سبحانه وتعلي) forgives you. Jealousy is a sure-fire way to destroying all of our good deeds so as soon as we let go of this evil it will be all the more beneficial for us.

Sources / Further Reading

English

Quran Translation – Kanz ul Iman
Backbiting – A cancer in our society
Video – Some healthy ways to deal with jealousy

Urdu

Video – A Muslim and Jealousy

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