DAILY DOSE OF DEEN: Spend time in the company of those who remind you of Allah (سبحانه وتعالي) and be the one who reminds others of Allah (سبحانه وتعالي)
اَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيْمِ
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمن الرَّحِيْمِ
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaathu everyone!
I’m sure everyone has at some point been told the importance of keeping good company. Everyone also knows the importance of maintaining family ties. So, what do you do when the bad company exists within your own family? There is a bit of a grey area when it comes to this statement because where do you draw the line between being the good influence on others and being the one that is being influenced? In life we will meet all kinds of people. If you live in a non-Muslim country like I do then a lot of people that you interact with in school, college, university, work or even in daily life will be non-Muslims. So, does that mean we ignore them? Of course not.
We, as Muslims, need to learn to balance between the extremities of being too open and being too closed. Islam is not an extreme religion. It is one of love and compassion and ultimately peace. Thus, we must emanate this kind of persona to all those around us. Remind others about the beauty of Islam through your actions. I am sure we have also met those types of people that are just so adamant that they are never wrong and arguing with them seems like you’re speaking to a brick wall. Instead of arguing with them leave them be and show them instead.
Now, I’m a Pakistani so I am surrounded by all of my extended family all the time. From uncles and aunties to cousins to my parents’ cousins and family functions are a regular occurrence. Although my sister (and brother sometimes) always wants to boycott them. However, it is inevitable that you will end up spending time in gatherings where Islam is not the main reason you are there. This does not mean we should indulge in un-Islamic activities. We should always watch what we say and think before we do. Whenever we sit with others, we should encourage them to speak about things that will benefit us in the hereafter or at least avoid speaking about others. Backbiting and speaking ill of others is a common occurrence in gatherings.
Yes, we should not go out of our way to spend time with people who we know may lead us down the wrong path but sometimes it is inevitable that we will end up in a situation where these people will be there. If this ever does arise it is important that we are the ones that influence others and not to be the ones that are influenced.
Sometimes such gatherings can be avoided, and it is in our best interests that we stay away from them. We should try to be in places where we are reminded of Allah (سبحانه وتعالي). As Muslims we should make time to attend Islamic speeches and events that are run to help remind us and better our hereafter. In places such as these the people that will be there will be people with good intentions and faith in Allah (سبحانه وتعالي). By attending these sorts of events, we can be assured that we will be around the right type of people. For ourselves more than anyone else we need to protect our hereafter because each and every one of us are going to our own graves.
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